I've done it! I've broke the genetic code that makes up a loser. It was SO simple I don't know how I could've missed it. For the DNA to be just right you take equal parts of Liar and User, mix lightly and there you have it: Liar + User = Luser (pronounced Loser). Ok, well, you get the picture.
If only it were that simple. Ironic actually how complicated it can get when lying becomes a factor of any equation. That's part of the problem with online dating - it allows for a cloak of anonymity that extends far beyond the physical. Living in the country, I thought online dating was a natural outlet for meeting the ever elusive Mr. Right.
One thing I found out is whether you live in the city or country, when it comes to online dating proceed with caution. Many sites offer the chance to post or not post a picture. The saying "A picture's worth a thousand words" certainly found a new home with online dating. Let me demonstrate.
I once dated someone that I met through friends for a few months and thought we were in a monogamous relationship (you know mutually exclusive). I guess I thought so because he kept telling me he wanted no one else and wasn't looking for anyone else and I felt the same. Anyway, he started acting strangely and remembering he had once stated he had tried the dating websites I decided to go fishing. Sure enough, there he was - and he had just been online earlier that same day. Now I don't know about you but to me mutually exclusive doesn't just mean a high-end sale at Neiman Marcus! I have a couple gal pals that were on that site so I decided we'd play a little hide and seek. Boy did he take the bait - with both of them. When confronted he tried to lie and explain his way out. "It wasn't me... It was a friend on my profile...Someone hacked my profile..." You know the standard evasive answers. Kinda like "The dog ate my homework".
So, guys (and probably girls too), here's a word to the wise. If you're in a committed relationship, you should have no reason to be on the dating websites. If you must continue, however, here's an idea: DON'T POST YOUR PICTURE!! That falls into that ever popular category of "Things that make you go duh!"
I don't want anyone getting the idea that I'm totally 'dissing' the dating websites. It's not their fault. I have actually met some very nice people on these sites and remain in contact as friends with them. That I would say is a pro point for the sites; you do have the opportunity to talk with and sometimes meet interesting people you wouldn't otherwise have the chance to. Again, this is why being in the country I posted on a couple of them. A very wise economics professor of mine once said "You can never have too much money or too many friends." He was right.
Today's Ponder Point: If a picture really is worth a thousand words, the delete key must be close to priceless.
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